For Singles

While searching for an article on children, I came across (through Focus on the Family) a source for singles called Boundless (With a vision of intentional living for the single years, Boundless offers a fresh perspective on age-old questions about faith and friendship, dating and entertainment, career, calling and more.) There are so many resources and articles you can explore for yourself, but here are a few of my favorites so far. I'll include a passage that will give you an idea of what it's about... or just a passage I liked!

Biblical Dating: Are You Ready to Date?
by Scott Croft (Scott Croft has served as the Chairman of the elders at Capitol Hill Baptist Church, where he wrote and teaches the Courtship & Dating CORE Seminar.)

As you move into the stage of life in which you begin to seriously consider marriage generally or a particular relationship, your first step should be to soberly reflect, before God, on your own spiritual walk and maturity in Christ. If you aspire to be a godly husband or wife someday, what have you done and what are you doing to prepare for that ministry?
He also covers Men Initiate, Women Respond & Accountability Is Key.

Brother, You're Like a Six
by Scott Croft

Oh, you're a single Christian woman? No problem:
"SCF seeks SCM to submit to in everything as to the Lord, to respect, to serve, to follow and to be led by in discipleship and ministry, to trust as spiritual leader of the home, and to serve Christ with for the next several decades or until Jesus comes back. SCM must possess total confidence (but can't be cocky and must trust SCF's opinion in all things); must be devastatingly handsome but have no idea that he is; must be exquisite interpersonal communicator who enjoys nothing more than long, conversations about the relationship; must understand SCF completely; and must otherwise fit description of how SCF thought 'The One' would be since SCF started thinking about it at age 11."

The practical problem with letting "attraction" lead the way in finding a spouse is not profound: It doesn't work. If everyone demanded that their quirky, secular notions of attractiveness or chemistry be perfectly fulfilled before they would agree to marry a person, no one would marry.

He talks about worldly attraction vs. Biblical Attraction


What Does a Biblical Relationship Look Like?
by Scott Croft

What is the difference between courtship and dating, and is one more biblical than the other? I will provide a working definition of each, describe how the two methods are broadly different, and then recommend why one method is fundamentally more biblical than the other.

In other words, modern dating asks, "How can I find the one for me?" while biblical courtship asks, "How can I be the one for her?
He covers the differences of the motives, mind-set & method between dating and courting.


Stop Test-Driving Your Girlfriend
by Michael Lawrence (who currently serves as an Associate Pastor at Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington, D.C. )

Directed towards guys, but a good read for girls too! Talks about the "How do I know if she's the one?" question.